Hi, it’s Mariane.

Hi, it’s Mariane.

Hi, it’s Mariane, with more revelations regarding the dangers of repressed emotions.

Hi everyone, this is Mariane and I want to share some expanded and clarified information about the emotions to the participants in the wonderful roundtable discussion some of us enjoyed during the Blogcast on January 4, 2010.

What I know to be true is Love is what we are made of; Love is the food that nourishes our being – everything else is an illusion! Love just IS – it requires nothing outside of you.

Love is not a feeling or emotion. Human emotions and feelings are so misunderstood. We have so many judgments and misconceptions around them. We blame others for our feelings and we feel guilt and shame over how we feel. All this is an illusion that only appears to be real.

Emotions and feelings are important information about us – what we like and don’t like; what we want and what we don’t want. Most important, emotions are TEMPORARY. If you don’t like the emotion you are feeling, just sit with it without judging it or blaming it on someone else, for 10 –30 minutes, until it goes away without any effort on your part. Stop pretending you don’t experience them. They need to be experienced and expressed. They are the “juice” of life. Emotions are like the weather, unpredictable and constantly changing. They seldom stay the same for very long.

We all feel emotions both pleasant and unpleasant. The pleasant ones like joy, peace, happiness, pleasure and serenity are a welcome experience for most of us, but our distress and disease come from the feelings we hide, repress and deny the most like: anger, hate, loneliness, trapped, numb, shocked, stuck, embarrassed, exposed, awkward, bored, discouraged, ashamed, unworthy, guilty, humiliated, dissatisfied, resistant, closed off, disappointed, uneasiness, resentful, bitter, offended, powerless, weak, drained, exhausted, tense, pressured, over-whelmed, inadequate, helpless, jealous, envious, fear, regret, doubt, etc., etc., etc.

For most of my life, the emotion “sad” was the mask for my anger. Sad drains our energy and anger held inside creates tiredness, lifelessness. Anger expressed has the power to create change. When I feel anger, I now know that what just happened was something I didn’t like. When I allow myself to honestly feel the anger without judging or criticizing it, I begin to slow down the situation so that I can be aware of what the anger is attempting to show me. It becomes clear that something is happening that I don’t like and I feel helpless. I perceive a situation that I don’t agree with and I become aware of my preferences or expectations that have not been satisfied.

If the preferences or expectations involve another person and I have not shared with them my preferences and expectations prior to their behavior which I reacted to, then the anger I feel may end up being projected by me on to them as blame.

Anger also reveals my intolerances, expectations and projections that I was not aware of. My self-betrayals (not telling the truth) and people-pleasing behavior became exposed. I have an opportunity to stop behaving as a victim or the pretender and to honestly express my emotions which frees me and everybody else.

When I deny or suppress my feelings, they affect me hurtfully (depression, disease, etc.) and they hurt others when I blame them as the cause of my feelings. Nobody else can make you feel an emotion unless you choose to create it yourself.

Right now, you can choose to stop wasting precious time waiting for someone to take care of your feelings, as if you were an infant who isn’t capable of taking care of themselve.

This New Year, be that someone who takes the best care of you, someone you know, someone that truly loves YOU.

Doing the same things in the same way, and expecting new and different results is the classic definition of insanity!

This New Year is the perfect time to choose a new beginning by choosing to do things in a new way and setting your intent on new results.

First, ask yourself this question: